One year later we are in a much better place in our lives. I call it “thriving after surviving” and I have used that phrase in my personal blog, which sadly I have not written for in quite a while. I also use it in my Tuesday night Facebook Live segments at 7:30PM (shameless plug I know). I call these segments “Thrive”.
I intend to repurpose blogs I have written and talk about these stories, I plan to talk about people I interview with my new podcast “They Dig Deeper” where people share their stories on doing good things without thinking about them, and yes, I will also bring my book on board eventually, just not today.
This is the year I looked back at all the times Larry and I were just expected to do what was asked of us and we did these things to keep the peace.
While Larry was in the hospital I listened to the concerns his kids had regarding how they feel about certain things their dad does or doesn’t do. I listened, I took their concerns back to Larry and we discussed everything. Newsflash, Larry is not really going to change that much, he is whom he is. I throw little reminders at him from time to time but it is not my “job” to get him to do what other people expect. In fact, when you want change, you need to be a part of that change. It is not a one-way street.
Change is often inspired because something in your life is hurting you much like ill-fitting shoes pinch your feet. Change also happens when you realize how old you are in actual years and think of all the things you still would like to do but time is not really on your side. On year later we see this very clearly.
The latter hit us as Larry recovered from his open-heart surgery and his emergency exploratory thoracic surgery within hours. We almost lost each other.
Lesson learned through all of this was that we truly only have each other and if we intend to make loving memories we have a second chance to do that. We are moving forward with gratitude and appreciation of the fact that we have been blessed with another chance and we will take advantage of all that life has given us. One year later our hearts are full.
What about devastating crises? What if I had lost Larry? I cannot answer what I would have done because it did not happen, yet life crises happen to all of us and unfortunately some do come with irreversible sad or tragic endings. Can we thrive after these crises happen? It depends on what lies inside of us. Things will never be the same again and in times like this we may not make it through on our own. There is no shame in asking for help. I have been there, in fact I was there as recently as a year ago when I did some life counseling to understand some baggage I was carrying all these years.
Crises we survive and then move on to thrive afterwards often come with people making positive changes in their lives. Whatever your higher power is, when you come face to face with what happened and are still standing above ground chances are you will make changes.
Do we regress? You betcha we do, however with practice regaining your new direction in life is easy because you will feel that pinch again. It is up to you whether you will kick off those shoes or keep wearing them thinking they will stretch and stop pinching, they won’t.
One year later this feels so good: